Seriously, May is National Masturbation Month. Obviously this shouldn't be the only time of the year to masturbate, but it's a good excuse to discuss the fact that it's not just men that masturbate. It's totally normal, humans are sexual beings. Besides blowing off sexual tension and possibly feeling a little bit dirty, it's how a lot of us find out what gets us off with our partners. My first orgasm was a solo event; masturbating taught me what my vulva felt like, and allowed me to meet my clitoris (the never-discussed part of the female anatomy in my health classes). The less dirty I felt when I masturbated the more comfortable I became with myself and my body, and the more confident I became in telling partners "lets try this"-- eventually allowing me to have multiple orgasms and truly love sex.I think no one should be ashamed or feel dirty for masturbating (obviously, in private). If you want to try sex toys-- individual toys or with your partner toys-- you should totally go for it. You never know what unexpected pleasures might come. The more uncomfortable you are with your body, your sexuality, or any difficulties climaxing, the more I want to encourage you to touch yourself and love your body.
